It's too bad I didn't keep any pieces for myself.
At the beginning of senior year, Ann was a smiling, straight-A student and track star with friends and a future. Then she met a haunted young man named Connor. Only she can heal his emotional scars; only he could make her feel so loved - and needed. Ann can't recall the pivotal moment it all changed, when she surrendered everything to be with him, but by graduation, her life has become a dangerous high wire act. Just one mistake could trigger Connor's rage, a senseless storm of cruel words and violence damaging everything - and everyone - in its path.
This evocative slideshow of flashbacks reveals a heartbreaking story of love gone terribly wrong.
Any avid or long-time follower of my blog or reviews knows
how I feel about abusive relationships, and how YA has gotten into the habit of
glorifying them. So many popular books
play on the “He’s just misunderstood” idea and twist very real signs of danger
into a bad-boy angle that is supposed to entice when it should warn away. But I
Love Him is chock full of some of these very signs, but unlike so many in
the genre, this novel shows the realistic, gritty consequences of an abusive
relationship. For that reason alone, I
would recommend this novel to every single girl who finds herself drawn to the
bad boys of YA.
But I Love Him is
told in reverse chronological order, a decision that at first seems
questionable and difficult to adjust to, but one that reveals itself to be a
stroke of genius as the story progresses.
Because the actual author can explain her decision so much better than I
could, the below quote is taken directly from the author interview at the back
of the book;
“By telling the story in reverse chronological order, it removes the
reader’s ability to judge the protagonist.
They don’t know the events that led up to the abuse, so they can only
sit back and observe.”
This bold story-telling decision proves to be very
effective. We slowly learn what could
have brought a young woman to the lowest of low points the novel starts with,
and by the time we turn that last page, we are forced to face the fact that
Ann’s devolving relationship with Connor isn’t something that could have been
avoided had she been a little smarter, a little more confident, a little bit
stronger. It is far, far from being that
simple.
Ann’s love for Conner is very real, which is to be expected
in this kind of novel. But what may be a
little less obvious before you really enter their relationship is that Connor’s
love for Ann is equally real. Another
questionable decision of Grace’s was to make the abuser sympathetic, a tragic
character haunted by his past. While
there are sure to be some who hate the fact that Connor isn’t a clear-cut bad
guy, and hate this book as a result, I am in love with the unabashed realism of
this book. Because in abusive
relationships, the abuser is very rarely as clear-cut evil as we tell
ourselves. It’s not the moments of pain
and debasing that keep women in these relationships, it’s the moments of honest
love and kindness that make it so hard to walk away. But I
Love Him captured this perfectly. So
in the end, Ann’s decision on whether or not to leave isn’t predicated on
whether or not Connor really loves her, because she knows he does. It’s whether or not his love is enough of a
reason to continue to endure the pain and loss of self.
“I have to decide who I love more: me or Connor.”
So the theme of this book shines. It’s a powerful story that needed to be told, and needs to be told again, one I wish more people could hear about. But I do wish that a few of the scenes had been a bit more powerful emotionally, especially some of the abusive ones. The story as a whole is immensely effective, but some of the big, stand-out moments of the relationship just weren’t given enough weight, in my opinion. There were also a few things that are mentioned in the beginning of the book that we never get to see actually unfold by the end, one specifically that I really wanted to read about. So while I would unhesitatingly recommend this book to anyone and everyone, it wasn’t perfect. But the honesty in the pages makes up for whatever they lack tenfold.
This is the second of Amanda Grace’s novels I’ve read, and
between this and the upcoming The Truth
About You And Me, which deals with a teacher-student relationship, she’s
quickly becoming one of my favorite less-known authors out there. Her books deal with real issues and show real
consequences, not some romanticized version of events. While I’ll always love my romantic,
happily-ever-after YA, the world needs more authors as willing to plumb the
darker sides of love as Amanda Grace.
But I Love Him - 4 out of 5 stars
Like the sound of this one. I always appreciate when an issue is sensitively handled and showing the abuser as not a 100% baddie is a good start. That makes it realistic and realistic fiction is always a winner for me too.
ReplyDeleteThanks, Trish! That's what I loved about it, too. I hate when books try to soften these kind of issues by making the abuser totally evil. All that does is belittle the women who find themselves in that kind of situation.
DeleteI think if you decide to read it, you'll really like it. It's a really quick read.
Kelly, this looks like a good book. Please drop me a line on ca4ole@gmail.com if you are ok with me linking to it on my blog (Carole's Chatter). Cheers
ReplyDeleteThanks, Carole! I'd be thrilled if you linked to it haha. Always makes my day when I see links to my blog on others'.
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Aww, thanks Elizabeth!
DeleteThis sounds like a great emotional book. I will be adding this to my TBR list.
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